Love

In a country like India, there are many things to be considered before you decide to fall in love.  This is absurd given love is natural feeling every living being experiences.

This perception distorts the way we handle relationships.  Usually one gives preference to career, to work over personal and family life.  On the contrary, they can coexist very well when we understand that love matures our understanding of how one person relates to other.

The maturity displaces notion of beauty, and body which we daily experience through images that run on media.  It also upholds literally the notion that love is blind.  It is blind because it connects each other with language of hearts.

Language of hearts is not a metaphor, it means speaking to human side of each other.  Acknowledging true emotions without the need for social approval.  It appreciates the other person for what they are and it excites both to be genuinely interested in each other.

Genuine interest fights to overcome differences, find commonalities, and seek to improve position of each other.  Such personal development is basis for developing into a mature adult, and bring up caring family.

Family is really a tricky concept.  They are the ones who usually oppose love yet all but embody love.  This is because that each family can be seen as string of relationships with some definite expectations.  This expectations is what causes mental block, and hinders family from realising love of one for new member.

The entry of new member is thus faced with opposition and naturally so.  It is thus important to be open in relationships.  Being open upholds fundamental value of being truthful which is basis of trust.  Trust is what builds relations and relations is what defines family.

Love, family are two experiences which every one experiences.  Yet some fail to acknowledge their role.  The insight provided here seeks to serve two purposes- to love and be loved.  Hope it makes it clear what it means to fall in love

The day my world tumbled

A natural disaster is a close example to explain nature of change that one experiences, rightly calling it a tumbled situation. In case of a disaster, it is the loss of near and dear, material belongings that cause us loose sense of sanity.  The jumping of people off world trade centre during 9/11 is another such example.

'My world' herein means our constructed world, so when i say 'my world tumbled', i hint at falling apart of our constructed worlds (in our minds).  To make it clear, the meaning is, that we carry a way of looking at the world, with age it emboldens, and we try fitting everything in that narrow tunnel of understanding of ours.  When that narrow tunnel of ours collapses, everything that is built on it, collapses with it.

Just imagine, all your goals, ideas, thoughts, emotions as having their roots in that singular view of yours, and a day comes, when you realize that it does not stand test of scrutiny.  Imagine, what you would be as a person the very next moment.

What does such a situation mean? My experience tells me that you have the feeling of numbness, where you detach yourself from the daily 'you', and in a moment every cherished moments you had before, passes like a whiz, you can by yourself see, how like pawns on chessboard, things fall apart.  Then there is silence, and then realization.

Why would I like to share such private and incomprehensible situation with you? Because I learnt a lesson.

After that moment, you are no longer you.  The realization that you no longer are you has filled in me many voids, about my own understanding, about my understanding about the surroundings.

I believe, even though, i did not say to you, what that moment was? what were my realizations?  It does not matter, as they again have come from my own tunnel, may be little bigger this time, than the previous one.

But for you, it means, if i may be allowed, there are many tunnels through which we experience. None of it higher/lower, right/wrong, good/bad.  I guess this is what, seers what us to know, to rise above differences...