Conflicting Personalities

"Conflicting themes in a personality" would have been apt title for this article but I preferred otherwise to highlight the differences a person projects with his dual characteristics which are starkly anti and yet resemble a personality.

Did you meet a person who holds great patience but works in a hurry?
Did you find any person who deals with people effectively yet lack empathy?
Are any of your friends highly ambitious and yet fearful of small failures?

I believe with the diversity we have it is certain that you might have come across one... Now, the question is why do such conflicting themes exist or develop in an  individual?

Psychology offers an explanation in the form of Stockholm syndrome where in captive in due amount of time starts liking captor. Studies by developmental psychologists suggest an explanation... that children of authoritarian parents (Google for authoritative parents too) come to a conclusion that use of violence and extreme control are methods to control surroundings and so when they grow up they tend to behave in a manner which they resisted in their early years.

So, you would find

*A person who speaks little, to be over emotional
*A person who speaks a lot, to be rational

Hence going by present perceptions which mostly are driven by "cult" of westernization it is the second variety of persons that are mostly preferred. Exams you give measure your objective/rational outlook and they cannot dwell into your emotional being. Hence such exams cannot really predict what you are capable of but the exams still are being practiced.

So, when our foundations (education, family, peer group) are weak we tend to overlook the difficulties... In the same way, existence of opposites as a natural thing is being overlooked.
Such existence can be within an individual, within a society, and also within universe(matter & antimatter).

These understanding can help us explain...

*Why 98% of women who get raped around globe are by person they already know
*Why a highly creative person like Einstein sometimes acted foolish
*Why the intelligent are least trustworthy
*Why the rich exploit the poor

Conviviality of opposites is being recognized now widely which is evident when America spoke of safeguarding Ukraine's territorial integrity however, which itself erred when invading Afghanistan.

If you have any such conflicting personalities in you I suggest you to accept it as it is... Then it will not be conflicting anymore.